Dale Husband in his own words: "WHY I AM FAR BETTER THAN ROY MOORE"
WHY I AM FAR BETTER THAN ROY MOORE
[Original URL: https://dalehusband.com/2017/12/18/why-i-am-far-better-than-roy-moore/]
Dale Husband’s Intellectual Rants
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Why I am far better than Roy Moore
Posted on December 18, 2017 by Dale Husband
TRIGGER WARNING: This blog entry is intended mainly for men and teenage boys. If you are a woman or teenage girl, especially if you are a survivor of any kind of sexual abuse, you are strongly advised to NOT read this!
Last week, Alabama almost sent a pervert to the U S Senate, sending a man of principle, Doug Jones, instead. The appeal of Roy Moore, who was accused of sexually harassing several teenage girls when he was in his 30s, is that he is a defender of traditional “Christian” values, even fighting to keep a display of the Ten Commandments at the State Courthouse when he was on the State’s Supreme Court….and getting removed from that court when he defied a federal ruling calling for the display to be removed. Note, however, that the Ten Commandments are JEWISH law and have nothing to do with Christianity. Then again, evangelical Christians in America are also supporters of Israel, which is a JEWISH state even though some Palestinian opponents of Israel are themselves Christian. Seems a lot of people are being disloyal to their own religion!
About two years ago, I was given a perfect opportunity to become a child molester. I was a close friend of an impoverished woman who also was a fellow Unitarian Universalist (UU). She had three daughters and trusted me to take them places, including our church, shopping malls, restaurants, and other public places. This I did for over a year and a half.
At one point, most of the family moved to another state, while the oldest girl (who was already showing signs of puberty) remained in Texas and under foster care. Because the foster mother was also a UU and was friends with the girl’s mother too, she also trusted me with the lone girl, who I will name Suzanne. But eventually, Suzanne too was scheduled to join her mother and sisters. Knowing this, the foster mother arranged for me to spend one final day with Suzanne. I decided to take her to see the Peanuts movie, which had just been released. We also went to other places.
As time went by, it seemed to me that I, despite Suzanne being age 11 and I age 46, was having strong romantic feelings for her. Indeed, it felt more like I was on a DATE with a girlfriend rather than a father-daughter event. I knew then that even if Suzanne was not expected to move out of Texas within a week, I’d have to distance myself from her after that night. So I tried to explain that to her, thinking that she might have a similar attraction towards me.
Dale: “Suzanne, to some extent, I feel like you could be my girlfriend…..but not anytime soon. You are simply too young! If we were to have such a relationship, not only would it be WAY INAPPROPRIATE, it is actually ILLEGAL and we could both get in serious trouble if others knew. However, there is a possibility. When you get older, you may find boys attractive to you and date them, and some may certainly be interested in you. If you find a boy or young man in the future you want to settle down with, I will be happy for you. But suppose you reach the age of 18 to 20 and get tired of immature boys breaking your heart. All you’d have to remember is that there was a man back in Texas who loved you and always treated you with respect. Then you could return to Texas, hook up with me, and I would be your boyfriend. I admit that is very unlikely…..but if makes you happy, it could happen. No one else should decide that sort of thing for you, not even me.”
Suzanne’s response was actually surprising to me, because despite my assurances that I would wait for her if she wanted me to, I expected her to be upset at the thought of my leaving her now. She wasn’t!
Suzanne: “But even if you and I never hook up, we could still remain friends, couldn’t we?”
Dale: “Absolutely! Just as we are friends now. Friendship is enough, it should always be enough if two people really love each other as equals and not as one possessing the other.”
And thus an awkward situation was totally defused between Suzanne and me. Her considerate attitude was actually like that of someone twice her age. I credit sex education courses like Our Whole Lives, taught in many UU churches, for this.
Had I been like Roy Moore, I imagine that I would have simply taken Suzanne to a motel room and manipulated or even forced her into bed with me, taking her virginity and feeling like I’d made another sexual conquest. But that would have ruined both of us and if she later told others what I’d done, it would have led to me being so disgraced that no one, not even my fellow UUs, would ever trust or respect me again! Indeed, there is a clear case of a UU minister who was exposed recently as a pedophile!
https://www.uuworld.org/articles/media-roundup-2017-03-31
Media roundup: Oklahoma minister arrested for child pornography
Updated: The Rev. Ron Robinson was arrested March 30th for accessing child pornography via an online application that had been under surveillance by federal investigators. Robinson is executive director of A Third Place Community Foundation in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and a former executive director of the Unitarian Universalist Christian Fellowship. (Tulsa World – 3.30.17)
More coverage: KTUL – 3.30.17, Tahlequah Daily Press – 3.30.17
UU World reported on Robinson’s community ministry in 2011, and earlier this month, on a fire that destroyed a portion of the ministry’s building. See also the UU Christian Fellowship’s statement about Robinson’s arrest; he served as its executive director from 2005 to 2015
More details here:
‘Red Pill’ Minister Gets Almost 5 Years in Prison for Child Porn
August 19, 2017 by David G. McAfee
A Unitarian Universalist minister from Oklahoma was sentenced this week to 57 months in federal prison followed by 10 years of supervised release for streaming child pornography and talking to others about raping, torturing, and even killing children.
REACTION by Unitarian Universalist officials:
---------- Forwarded message ---------
From: Cameron Young
Date: Fri, Jun 30, 2023 at 7:01 AM
Subject: RE: Grooming of a minor by Dale Husband…
To: Sean Neil-Barron, N.W. Azal
Dear Wahid,
Thank you so much for making us aware of this, and that this might’ve fallen through the cracks as Rev. Nato is no longer serving on the UUA. While the reddit thread is beyond our purview, I have contacted the congregations that Dale has been affiliated with, and urged them to take action ASAP. I’ve also alerted our Safer Congregations team at the UUA.
It’s really helpful that you saved these screenshots. I’m so sorry you had this experience with him, and hope this gives you some solace.
Best,
Cameron Young :: they/them
Congregational Life Staff- Southern Region
Based in Fort Worth, TX
972-383-9197
Unitarian Universalist Association
Congregational Life
24 Farnsworth Street, Boston, Massachusetts 02210
www.uua.org
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From: Nathan Hollister
Date: Wed, May 13, 2020 at 1:42 PM
Subject: RE: Grooming of a minor by Dale Husband…
To: N.W. Azal, sean
Hi Wahid & Sean,
First of all, yuck. This is gross. Thank you for contacting me about it.
I hope we have some luck getting Mr. Husband to tell us which congregation he attends. In his area are Pathways, Westside, Arlington, and First (which my grandparents helped found).
If he doesn’t respond with that information this week, I will contact the ministers of those four congregations to inquire about him, as a first step. Does this sound like the reasonable next action to you all?
Warmly,
-Rev. Nato
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The Stated Intent vs. The Actual Effect
• Stated Intent: The author, Dale Husband, explicitly states he is drawing a moral contrast. He positions himself as a man who, despite having an opportunity and even “romantic feelings” for an 11-year-old girl, chose to do the right thing. He contrasts this with Roy Moore (accused of preying on teenagers) and a UU minister (a convicted pedophile) to argue that character is defined by deeds, not religious affiliation.
• Actual Effect: The post does not read as a simple moral lesson. Instead, it comes across as a shocking and inappropriate public confession. The detailed narrative of his attraction and the specific dialogue he recounts with the child (“Suzanne”) are deeply unsettling and overshadow his intended point.
Profoundly Problematic Narrative and Grooming Behaviors
This is the most critical area of concern. The author's description of his interaction with “Suzanne” exhibits several red flags associated with grooming—the process by which an abuser prepares a child for future sexual abuse.
• Crossing Emotional Boundaries: A 46-year-old man confessing romantic feelings to an 11-year-old is a severe violation of appropriate adult-child boundaries. He re-frames a caretaking relationship (taking her to church, movies) as a romantic “DATE.”
• The "Future" Proposition: His speech to her is not about setting a healthy boundary; it is a proposition. By telling her she could return to him at age 18-20, he is:
o Planting a Seed: He is introducing the idea of a future sexual relationship into her psyche.
o Creating a "Special" Bond: He positions himself as a respectful, waiting alternative to "immature boys," fostering a sense of unique connection and obligation.
o Justifying Inappropriate Feelings: He rationalizes his current attraction by projecting it into a future where it would be legally permissible, thereby avoiding confronting its wrongfulness in the present.
• Misinterpretation of the Child's Response: He interprets the girl's desire to "remain friends" as mature and considerate, rather than what it more likely was: a child's attempt to process a confusing and uncomfortable situation from an trusted adult. He uses her response to validate his own actions.
Flawed and Dangerous Psychological Claims
The author makes a sweeping and dangerous generalization:
"I think all men have perverted impulses deep within them, and the good ones are those who keep those twisted thoughts and attitudes buried and under strict control..."
• Implication: This pathologizes male sexuality as inherently containing pedophilic urges. This is factually incorrect and harmful.
• Normalization: It normalizes the attraction to children as a universal male experience, rather than recognizing it as a specific paraphilia (pedophilia) that requires professional intervention. His "victory" is not over a common impulse, but over a specific, deviant one that he experienced.
Ethical and Moral Contradictions
• Self-Congratulatory Tone: The post is framed as a boast ("Why I am far better..."). He is congratulating himself for not sexually assaulting a child, which is an extraordinarily low bar for moral superiority.
• Lack of Self-Awareness: He fails to see that confessing a sexual attraction to a child and propositioning her for the future is, in itself, a form of psychological abuse and a profound betrayal of trust. He focuses on the avoided physical act while being blind to the emotional transgression he committed.
• Exploitation of a Child's Story: He uses “Suzanne’s” story, including a fabricated name and direct quotes, as a rhetorical device to elevate himself, without any apparent concern for her privacy or well-being.
Societal and Cultural Implications
• Trigger Warning as a Shield: The “trigger warning” at the beginning is used less for genuine protection and more as a dramatic device to frame his controversial content. It does not mitigate the content's disturbing nature.
• Misguided Lesson on Hypocrisy: While his core point—that religious people can be immoral and non-religious people can be moral—is valid, it is completely undermined by his own narrative. He becomes an example of the very hypocrisy he claims to oppose, using the language of UU principles (“inherent worth and dignity”) to justify a deeply inappropriate interaction.
Summary Conclusion
The primary implication of this blog post by Dale Husband in 2017 is that the author, in his attempt to portray himself as morally superior, has instead documented a case study in grooming behavior dynamics and a profound lack of understanding of healthy boundaries with children.
• He intended to say: “I am a good man because I controlled my impulses, unlike these other bad men.”
• He inadvertently demonstrated: “I experienced a pedophilic attraction, communicated it to a child, proposed a future relationship with her, and now view this as a moral success story.”
The post is far more revealing about Dale Husband’s own concerning thought processes and behavior than it is about the failings of Roy Moore or Ron Robinson. It serves as a disturbing reminder that harmful behavior can be rationalized by the perpetrator, even when wrapped in the language of ethics, honor, and “true love.”